The Rest is Important

by Mario on May 23, 2009

in General Leadership

Under The Palm Tree“Why should we live with such hurry and waste of life?” ~  Thoreau

Mentioning how little time off he took off, one of the younger men I work with was bragging about his leave balance (how much vacation time he has on the books). He compared his record of attendance and  continuous days on the job to one of the other (and yes, younger) men that work on our team; one who frequently took his vacation time. Having a double digit leave balance – the higher the better – has become a sort of merit badge of work ethic in my organization.  Overhearing his not-so-veiled attempt to imply that “vacation” was a concept for the less dedicated, his boss asked from the next office, “Do you think that not taking time off makes you more valuable in your job, or less?” After a long silence with no answer from the young man, the well-respected leader said, “My leave balance is zero. Do you think I would have done more work last year if I never took a break….like you?”  More silence.  “Why don’t you take a week off and think about it? You can answer me when you get back.”

Hearing all of this from across the hall last week, I was almost smug.  “Ahh youth”, I thought – they think they know so much, but thank goodness for the sage council and wisdom of the experienced.  I remembered the days when I thought that time off was for the weak; when I was young (and stupid) and didn’t know I was young (or stupid).  To add to the joke, I got up to hand the naive lad a leave request form – but got turned around by one inescapable truth; I hadn’t taken a decent day off in a year. I knew better than that.  I knew the sage advice from across the hall was directed at me.  I was becoming less and less valuable over time, so I sat my hypocritical butt back in my chair and wrote my name at the top of that form.  As I tried to remember how to fill one of those things out, I remembered all the excuses (read: lies) I gave myself for not taking a break sooner.  There was a time when I owed leave as often as it was owed to me.  I relished my days “on the beach.”  I don’t know what disease overtook me, but If you recognize your own voice in any of these – you’ve got it bad.  Get thee to the ocean, pronto.

Lie #1: People are depending on me now, I can’t leave yet.

There are times this is true, but it is an excuse almost exclusively reserved for surgeons (in the middle of surgery) and firefighters (in the middle of , you know, fighting fires.) Actually, I prefer my surgeons well-tanned and equally well-rested before they go to work.   But for the rest of us, the people we believe are depending on us could honestly give the south-end of a rodent whether or not we are at our desk or laying on the sand in the Keys.  If you’re not convinced, try this little experiment:  Ask the people that you are so certain depend on you if they can manage without you for a week or two.  After you convince yourself that they were not holding back laughter, buy your plane tickets.

Lie #2: I’ve got too much to do to take a break.

This particular load of crap is powerful because it contains the illusion of truth.  We do get extremely busy and become fooled by the appearance of a full schedule.  Looking ahead at deadlines and commitments, it is hard to imagine that there is room in our world for the luxury of non-production.  But this one is all ego.  Like all believable lies, there is some truth in it, but just some.  What is missing is the qualifier:  Correctly stated it sounds like this – “Given how inefficiently I am working and how frazzled I am as a person, I’ve got too much to do to take a break.  An obvious slippery slope to be on,  but the fix for this one is easy.  Look ahead in your calendar to the next open week and write in the word “vacation”, then don’t put anything else in that week.  Problem solved.  If you can’t find an open week, the solution is almost the same. Pick any week, cross everything else out and write in the word “vacation”, then don’t put anything else in that week. Tell your appointments you had a family emergency.  Unless you’re a surgeon rescheduling a lifesaving operation, they’ll understand.  (PS – go too long without a taking a break, and the family emergency is imminent anyway so there is some truth to your excuse).

Lie #3:  If I leave for too long, things will fall apart around here.

There is only ever one person in the world that believes that about you at any given time, and you guessed it, it’s you.  A mentor of mine – a wise old master chief – put it this way.  He said, “Organizations are fluid things, Mario. Take some water out of a glass and the rest of the water fills in just fine.”  Only sole proprietors can even hope to get away with using this one; which is ironic since being able to set your own schedule is the best reason to work for yourself, right? For guys like me, who work for centuries old organizations with four year transfer schedules, the thought that I am vital is ludicrous.  For the rest of you, if the company was there before you, there is a good chance that it will be fine after you.  So what really could happen in the say ten days time that would alter the course of your organization?  If you have the guts, try the experiment for lie #1 on the “fall apart without you” factor.  I doubt you want to be that openly insulting to your team, but if you’re still not convinced – insult away.  Again, after making yourself believe they weren’t laughing (or insulted), buy your tickets.

Expedia has Data:

If you’re on the West coast, you’re more likely blow off your vacation time than I am,  men are more likely to check in with work on those rare vacations than women are, and if you’re an American you are given less vacation days by your employer than every other developed country in the world.  So says Expedia.com’s 2008  Vacation Deprivation Survey.  While I believe they are motivated by profits more than the science of data analytics, Expedia’s website – dedicated to making us spend money on not working – is backed by some convincing science nonetheless:  Hiatus makes us more productive, happier, and healthier.  They also discovered that only 16% of leaders set a good vacation example by taking all of their time off.  So, according to the data, American leaders are making the decision to be less productive so they can appear to be more productive.  Like me, hypocrites all.

kayakI’m Outta Here:

I’ve learned my lesson and I’m well on the way to getting my leave balance back to a respectable zero.  I’m letting the water fill in the space I’ll leave, but I’ve got a very bad habit of finding work where none exists – like writing blog posts on perfectly good three day weekends –  so I have designed a solution.  Next month (my first open week or two, thanks) I’m taking my Kayak from Havre de Grace, Maryland to Fort Story in Virginia Beach.  The Chesapeake Bay – solo: No work, no cell phone, no computer, nobody else.  Like Henry David in the woods, I’ll be searching for my own Walden and taking a real break for the first time in a long time.  When I get back, I’m willing to bet I will be more valuable a member of my team than when I left. Like so many of you – so says the data – I have forgotten what my respected friend across the hall never forgot;  the rest is as important as the work.  The rest is part of what we work for in the first place.  It’s entirely up to you, but I think you should take a vacation.  We can talk about if  it was a good idea or not when you get back.

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  • http://intensedebate.com/people/kahood kahood

    This reminded me of "Habit 7 – Sharpen the Saw" from Steven Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Successful People. One of my definitions of "Sharpening the Saw" is strengthening worklife balance and taking care of one's spiritual health. You're right – we need to take time for ourselves – away from work, and even away from family (yes!) – to recalibrate and balance our perspective. Thanks for the reminder – enjoy your time off!

  • http://www.bwilliamsonline.com Barbara Williams

    I learned this lesson the hard way. Now understand I am commenting on this blog the day of cataract surgery, but I really am taking it easy. LOL! When I first started my business, I checked email and voicemail constantly . After 3 years of no time off, I was exhausted. Now after 10 years in business, I take 3 weeks off a year, and don't work weekends, unless there is really an emergnecy.

    You'll get the hang of it!

    Barbara Williams
    Barbara@Bwilliamsonline.com

  • http://www.TrevorCrookBlog.com ToeCracker

    Personally, the more vacation time you have, the more productive you can be. Great article.

  • http://www.AllProAdmin.com Phyllis

    A good reminder for all of us. Intel's been a leader in their field and they *insist* that their people take a sabbatical every seven years–to go out and see, do, experience something different. *Different* may mean time with the family, gardening, cruising the neighborhood, or taking an exotic vacation–no matter what, it's an opportunity to learn and grow, come back refreshed, and with new ideas and perspectives. Time is a wonderful thing–don't waste it!

  • http://dmiracle.com Dawud Miracle

    This is one point that all small business owners need to learn. Most of us running our own business are doing so because we want freedom. But what's freedom if we don't take the time to do the things we love outside our work?

    I can tell you from experience – the client will wait for your return, your business will be in place when you get back and all the contacts that try to find you while you're gone will be pleased that you got away from your work – the stories of vacations are always great ice breakers with leads.

    So I second your notion of getting away. Take a break. Leave the office. And when you go away, leave your email behind and let all your business calls go to voicemail. In other words – really unplug.

  • http://www.quantumleverage.com Craig Teich

    Working more & living less is a fools life.

    The challenge for many, especially those working in group settings, is that the biggest fools are the best recruiters, bragging about their foolishness — in this case, working much, accomplishing little, living hardly at all — and their peer pressure often influences those who are easily influenced.

    Take the advice above and add to it your confidence and conviction in order to be both a more results-oriented achiever and a person who drinks deeply from the cup or life instead of the fool who always refuses the best of all cool beverages.

    –@CraigTeich

  • http://joegigantino.blogspot.com/ Joe Gigantino Jr.

    Great blog! As an owner of several health clubs and many people that depend on me.. I have learned the value of vacations! Wether its a few days with the family, or a couple days in Vegas we all need a change of scenery once in awhile to break away from the business. I know I'm better off when I get back…

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/mvittone Mario Vittone

    Thanks for all the comments – and thanks so much to @CraigTeich (via @MiaChambers) for the article retweet. I'd write more, but I am busy planning my kayak trip. Cheers!

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/PhilKirby PhilKirby

    Great article! It's much the same in the UK, and seems to be getting worse, given the economic mess we're in. Especially for freelancers and the self-employed, a break can just mean twice the expense and nil income, and it's an argument that I have with friends all the time. But, like you say, it's totally necessary. I not only take my full holidays I make sure that I build some time into every day just for idling, resting, chatting to friends, watching the world go by. I don't know if it makes me better at my job, just I know I'd go crazy if all I thought about was how to be more productive all day long! Enjoy the kayak!

  • SelfEmployed

    This is thought-provoking. True, the world can spin on its axis just fine without me. But sometimes the pre-vacation prep and the catch-up when I return makes me wonder if a real vacation was worth it. Often my best get-away is to not get away at all — just hang out at home and do all those things I've been wanting to get around to but was too busy. It's productive (satisfying that part of me) but energizing, and a refreshing change of pace. Also, like Phil said above, it's good to take frequent, small breaks on a regular basis. Sometimes I'll go THE WHOLE WEEKEND without turning on my computer. Can you imagine?

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/chenelson chenelson

    I'll own this. Embarrassingly, after turning down a package and not taking an offer of vacation, I was terminated and walked away with ten weeks of vacation. One week after my departure, the CEO made a decision, and 'my' department was transitioned to a more hospitable environment. I'll never know what may have have happened–I do know that final walk out of the building on a serene Monday morning in Seattle brought a sense of relief I will never forget. Blackberry silent, I was finally free to discover life.

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