I was saddened to hear of the death this past Sunday of twenty-eight-year old Avishek Sengupta, who drowned at a Tough Mudder event in West Virginia. Saddened, but not at all surprised. Tough Mudder is one of those pay-to-play obstacle challenges that allow anyone with an entry fee and the willingness to sign a waiver [...]
It’s time to start writing my own letters to my children and to my friends. It is time for all of us to start writing. We shouldn’t wait. As I’ve always looked to my parents I know now that our children always look to us with the same unanswered question just behind their hearts. “Is this it, Daddy? Am I doing good?” It’s the reason they learn to say “Watch me” so young. And if you only get one thing then get this: Our children do not hold back or shrink from themselves because they are afraid to fail. They are only afraid of failing us.
I’ve never done it, but it was on my list. Parasailing; it just looks like fun, doesn’t it? After spending most of my life evaluating what is safe or going after people who weren’t, hanging from a parachute high above the water seemed like a great way to have fun. The view has to be [...]
The image above is from a YouTube video posted in 2009 – a sort of warning to boaters about the benefits of safety gear like life jackets and kill switches. I’m posting it here as a warning about how wrong some people are about what is safe and what isn’t. Our man, Greg – the [...]
(Well – that took a little longer than I thought it should (3 years?) but Blagojevich finally found out he did something wrong. A few years ago, the incredulous way he said “I did nothing wrong” compelled me to write a few words on blame. I’m re-posting now in honor of …accountability.) After years [...]
What we need our leaders to do about the oil spill is to listen to things from all sides and exercise judgment – calm, sound judgment. Not a soul on the earth has any experience capping a mile-deep oil well. Nothing in our leaders experience will help them. We’re going to have to hope that they are smart and not unnerved by the ridiculous pressures that come from outside the problem. We’re going to have to hope that what the public thinks about what they are doing to work the problem doesn’t change how they actually work the problem. The situation itself is pressure enough.
With so many organizations competing for the women of the world, trying to get them to take notice and join up with them (instead of their competitors) I’ve noticed something disturbing: It’s not working. Though some have enjoyed moderate success at upping the numbers of female leaders on the payroll – too many (far too many) are struggling. As of April, only 15 of the Fortune 500 were led by women CEOs. That’s just .03%? – Pathetic. I think – and bear with me here – that I have identified the primary reason that so many of us long to achievie gender balance on our teams. Ready? Here it is: We keep trying to treat women as equals…..huge mistake. Now I’ve heard all the arguments: “a woman can do anything a man can do.” and, “women are just as good at men in the workplace.” But it never quite registered with me as the right approach.
The unaccounted for variable in all these stories, from the “look what my caring leadership and mentoring has produced” series, are the other ten people that worked for you back in 95. What happened to them? What happened to your top three performers that you ignored while you were paying attention to your fixer-upper? Because something definitely happened to them – while you may have thought you were doing a good and noble thing, I personally believe you screwed up royal.
If Marcus Buckingham was right, that leadership is “rallying people to a better future.” – then as much as you may think of him as a marketer, as a merchant, or as a hustler (in a good way); Gary Vaynerchuk is – above all of that – a leader. With the recent release of his [...]
Perspective changes everything. It will let you know when its time to dig in and fight, and when its alright to concede. Perspective allows you to remain calm when everyone else is frantic. Knowing what is bad and what isn’t gives you a certain coolness under what is pressure to everyone else, and that can make all the difference. When faced with a “crisis” (please) the ability to temper your reaction accordingly and face the problem makes things better. Calm beats frazzled every time.